Episode 26: The Energy of Deciding: Why Everything Shifts When You Commit
Episode Summary:
Learn how the energy behind a decision impacts your subconscious mind, shapes your identity, and opens up new opportunities. Discover how to break free from the paralysis of indecision and step into the identity of your most empowered self.
If you're feeling stuck, this episode is for you.
⏰ Timestamps:
00:00 The Energy of Decision- Why Everything Shifts When You Commit
00:18 Invitation to work with me
00:32 The problem
01:35 Decision is a catalyst
03:00 The inner block behind not deciding
04:04 My personal experience
04:58 How to tap into the energy of decision
05:39 Examples of hesitation
06:08 Journaling prompts
06:44 What becomes possible when you decide
Episode Transcript:
Hello, friends. Today's conversation is about a simple act that changes absolutely everything in your life. It's the moment you decide, because the energy of a decision has a very real impact on your subconscious mind. It also impacts your identity and the opportunities that show up for you.
[00:00:18] Invitation to work with me
Before we dive in, if you're feeling called to work together to bring clarity around your next up level. And if you're ready to release the subconscious resistance and step into the identity of your most empowered self, you can apply to work with me through the link in the description.
[00:00:32] The problem
Right now, you might be feeling stuck in the In-between. I've been there. You're probably caught between two worlds. You're successful on paper and you've created so much already. But in the quiet moments, you shift into a subtle daydreaming about your next up level. It feels palpable. It feels like you can live it like it's so close, and you feel it's the next aligned season for you.
And then just as you're allowing yourself to claim it, you freeze. I know that feeling all too well. You tell yourself you need more clarity, more proof, more signs from the universe. You do this dance several times over and over, one foot in one foot out.
Your indecision is draining your energy and it's keeping you in limbo.
This limbo has a familiar flavor. It feels like planning without executing, thinking about the next level, but shelving it for another time. seeing others living the very same experience that you're aiming for and thinking to yourself "must be nice", and you convince yourself it's just not the right time.
[00:01:35] Decision is a catalyst
Decision is an act of self-trust. It is you saying, "I know where I'm going and even if I don't know how I trust myself to figure it."
Your subconscious mind responds to specificity. It needs a target to move towards. So the moment you choose what you want, your mind starts filtering the world differently. It notices opportunities that were seemingly invisible before it organizes the world around you, around the outcome that you have claimed.
When you decide that what you want is inevitable, something powerful happens. You shift into a new identity. You drop out of the old role of the woman who is thinking about her next level, and you step into the identity of the woman who has already chosen it. You start to behave as her. You start to respond as her, and you start to create intentionally as that version.
Once that happens, the universe rearranges around the new signal you're sending. People show up, ideas come through, timing aligns perfectly with the right opportunities, and suddenly you're having expansive conversations that you weren't having before. You're guided towards resources that you didn't even know existed.
And that is not magic, even though it feels like it's magical and things are just happening left and right, like little miracles. What that is is resonance and coherence because you decided.
[00:03:00] The inner block behind not deciding
if you've been stuck between two options or feeling unclear about what you want it might be because you're protecting yourself.
Sometimes the problem isn't lack of clarity. Sometimes it's fear. Fear that the bigger dream will invite pressure. Fear that your life will change too much.
fear that you'll outgrow people. And fear that you'll outgrow your own family or some of the friends that you love and have known for years. Fear that you'll lose the freedom instead of gaining it.
Fear that you won't be happy when you get there.
Fear that you're being ungrateful for what you already have.
Your subconscious is wired to keep you safe. It sees unfamiliar territory as dangerous, even if it's everything that you've ever wanted. So it delays the decision. It distracts you, it convinces you to wait. Indecision becomes a form of self-protection.
and this might be hard to hear, my friend, but not deciding is still a decision. Are you choosing the version of you who stays exactly where you are? If you're a listener of this podcast? I don't think so.
[00:04:04] My personal experience
I know this pattern because I've lived this pattern. There were moments in my life where I was holding onto the identity that kept me safe in childhood and in corporate life. I wanted more, but my subconscious kept whispering that more meant losing stability, that I'd be losing approval, and that I'd be losing safety.
I had to learn that deciding to pursue my entrepreneurial goals wasn't reckless. It was self-leadership and commitment to my dreams. The moment I finally said yes to the next version of myself, my reality shifted in ways I couldn't have predicted.
And the same holds true for my clients, every breakthrough they've had in income, career, relationships, deeper self-trust. It started with a single decision before the strategy, before the plan, and before even knowing how it would happen. It always starts with a decision.
[00:04:58] How to tap into the energy of decision
You create momentum the moment you choose.
When you decide what you want, your subconscious gets the directions it needs. Only then can we identify the beliefs, the conflicts, and the emotions that have been in the way, and that's when tools like subconscious reprogramming, breath work, NLP, and identity work become effective because they have something to aim at.
This is how you break the cycle of limbo. You choose the desire you want to claim. You stop waiting for the conditions to be perfect, and you stop waiting to feel ready. You choose first, and then you grow into the woman who can hold that choice.
[00:05:39] Examples of hesitation
If this sounds like you, it's time to put a stake in the ground, my friend. You say you wanna grow your business, but you keep researching instead of choosing a direction,
you say you wanna higher income, but you resist raising your prices.
You say you want more time freedom, but you hold onto every responsibility that you have out of habit.
You say you want more visibility, but you put off starting your podcast.
All of these are signs that the desire is there, but the decision hasn't landed.
[00:06:08] Journaling prompts
As always, I've got a few journaling prompts to help you uncover what your subconscious is ready for you to process.
So bring out your journal and let's get to it.
If it felt completely safe to want what I want, what would I choose right now?
If I knew that everything would work out in my favor, what decision would I make today?
If I trusted myself fully, what would I say yes to? if nothing could be taken from me, what would I allow myself to claim?
Let yourself write freely without judgment. Whatever wants to come through is what is ready to be processed. Your subconscious mind knows the answers.
[00:06:45] What becomes possible when you decide
Once you make the decision, everything shifts, you step into a new identity, your actions become aligned, your energy becomes clear. You stop leaking power into indecision, and you start channeling it into the life that you're actually building.
For me, decision is an energetic declaration. It's me choosing the woman that I am becoming. So are you ready to choose the woman that you are becoming?
You deserve to choose the life that keeps calling you, and the moment that you decide the stars align, the seas part and your dreams unfold.
So I'd love to know what are you finally deciding today? I'd love to know your answer. Let me know in the comments. Thank you so much for being here, and I'll see you in the next one.
Common Questions About Making Big Decisions:
Q: How do I know if I'm avoiding a decision out of fear vs. genuinely not being ready?
A: Ask yourself: "Am I waiting for the conditions to be perfect, or am I waiting for the fear to go away?" Conditions will never be perfect. The fear doesn't disappear before you decide, it disappears because you decided. If you've been "waiting" for 6+ months on the same decision, that's fear, not discernment. Your body will tell you: genuine "not ready" feels like peace with waiting. Fear-based avoidance feels like anxiety, guilt, and constant mental loops.
Q: What if I make the wrong decision?
A: Here's what I tell my clients: there are no wrong decisions, only different paths that will provide you with different feedback. The fear of making "wrong decision" keeps you frozen in indecision, which is actually the most costly choice because it drains your energy and keeps you stuck. Every decision teaches you something. And here's the secret: your subconscious will guide you away from truly harmful choices. If you're agonizing over a decision, both options are probably viable, you just need to choose one and commit.
Q: I've made the decision mentally, but my body still feels resistant. Why?
A: Because your subconscious and nervous system haven't caught up yet. Mental decisions happen in your conscious mind (5% of your brain). But your subconscious (95%) and nervous system are still running old programming that says "this change is dangerous." This is where subconscious reprogramming techniques like Neural Energetic Encoding, breathwork, and parts integration become essential. We need to help your body feel safe with the decision your mind has made.
Q: How long does it take for things to shift after I decide?
A: The energetic shift happens immediately, you'll feel lighter, clearer, more focused. But the external manifestations can take anywhere from days to months depending on what you're calling in. What's important is that you maintain the energy of your manifested outcome even when you don't see immediate results. Your subconscious is reorganizing. The universe is rearranging. Trust the process.
Q: What if my decision affects other people (partner, family, kids)?
A: This is where the fear of "outgrowing people" comes in. First, give your loved ones more credit, they may surprise you with their support. Second, remember that you staying small doesn't actually serve anyone. When you model courage, decision, and going after your dreams, you give permission for others to do the same. That said, if your decision involves others, have the conversation. Let them be part of the process. But don't let fear of their reaction keep you from going after your dreams.
Q: Can you help me make this decision in your coaching?
A: Yes, but not in the way you might think. I don't tell you what to decide, that power stays with you. What I help you do is identify the subconscious blocks and fears that are keeping you stuck in indecision. Once we clear those, the decision becomes obvious. Most of my clients discover they already knew what they wanted, they just needed to feel safe choosing it. We use techniques like parts integration (when part of you wants it and part of you is afraid), timeline work (to release old programming), and nervous system regulation (so your body feels safe with change).
Q: I keep changing my mind. Is that normal?
A: Flip-flopping is usually a sign that you haven't fully committed to one path. Your subconscious is still trying to "keep all the doors open" as a safety mechanism. True decision means closing the other doors and saying "this is the path I'm choosing." That doesn't mean you can never pivot later, but for now, you need to commit fully to one direction so your energy can focus. If you're constantly changing your mind, there's likely a deeper fear we need to address.
💡Tip: Notice where in your body you feel indecision. Is it your chest? Your stomach? Your throat? That physical sensation is your nervous system signaling "this decision feels unsafe." You can use breathwork (specifically extending your exhale) to regulate your nervous system while you contemplate the decision. This helps your body feel safe enough to let you choose.
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About Heidy: I’m Heidy, a Certified Master Mindset Coach, for women in their 30s and 40s, specializing in Hypnosis, Neural Energetic Wiring, Neural Energetic Wiring, Neural Energetic Encoding, Breathwork, and Emotional Freedom Techniques (Tapping). I’m also the host of the Confident, Magnetic & Wealthy Podcast. As someone who broke through generational adversity and reprogrammed the beliefs that said I wasn’t supposed to succeed, I know what it’s like to rise beyond what was modeled for me. I’ve guided women to grow their income to multiple six-figures and achieve their biggest goals while feeling confident and regulated. My magic sauce is how I help clear the subconscious blocks that create guilt, resistance, and self doubt through neuroscience-backed modalities. Confident, Magnetic & Wealthy is an extension of me, how I live my life, and how I help other women do the same through my 1:1 coaching. Most important, CMW is my mission to help women expand their magnetism and build unshakeable self trust to attract the wealth and opportunities she desires. I believe when a woman feels safe to have more, she naturally expands what’s possible for her family, her community, and her future.
About the Confident, Magnetic & Wealthy Podcast: Confident, Magnetic & Wealthy is a podcast for women in their 30s and 40s who are ready to experience more success, money, visibility, and impact. Hosted by Heidy, Master Mindset Coach, Breathwork & Hypnosis Practitioner, this podcast explores money mindset, identity, and the inner work required to break upper limits around wealth, confidence, and success. The show blends practical action with spiritual principles to help you manifest your dream life, shared through the lens of a first-generation, child-free woman devoted to confidence, self-trust, and ease. Many cycle breakers and first-generation leaders were taught how to survive, not how to receive. As a result, growth can trigger guilt, fear, and self-doubt, even when life looks good on the outside. Heidy shares how self-image and the subconscious mind shape what you allow yourself to have, and how to rewire those patterns so success feels safe. On this podcast, you’ll learn about money mindset, subconscious reprogramming, breaking generational patterns. Shared through the lens of a Master Mindset Coach, first-gen, and child-free woman devoted to helping women live their most abundant life.