Episode 19: Why It’s Safe to Want More (Even When You’re Already Blessed)

Transcript:

Hello friends! and welcome back.

Let’s talk about the emotional cocktail of desire mixed with self-judgement so many high achieving women feel when they start wanting more. More money. More impact. More visibility. More creative expression. More freedom.

Followed by the whisper of “Shouldn’t I be grateful for what I already have,” or “What if people think I’m never satisfied,” or “What if wanting more makes me appear ungrateful.”

What’s so wild about this internal dialogue is that it’s all learned programming.

Before we begin if you are a woman who is ready to step into her next level of identity, income, and inner freedom, the link in the description will take you to apply to work with me privately.

Many of us were taught not to shine too brightly, not to ask for too much, and not to outgrow the people we love.

We grow up absorbing conditioning from family, community, religion, and culture that shapes our beliefs about what is acceptable to want. We watch the adults around us settle, sacrifice, and stay small in the name of safety or loyalty or humility.

So by the time you reach success as a solopreneur or a creator or a leader, you are carrying two truths at once. You feel genuinely blessed by what you’ve created. And you also feel the pull toward something bigger. Something that expands you. Something you have never done before.

Why this happens is because your subconscious has a prime directive. It seeks more. More learning. More growth. More expansion. It constantly moves you toward greater potential because that is how the mind evolves. So when your desire grows, it is not a flaw or a character defect. It is your biology doing what it has always done.

Think about the people we admire for a moment.

Oprah could have stayed the most successful talk show host on the planet. Instead she built a network, a magazine, a production company, a school, a spiritual empire, and now curates the cultural conversations she wants to shape.

Selena Gomez could have stopped at Disney fame. Instead she created Rare Beauty, one of the fastest growing beauty companies, and stepped into leadership around mental health advocacy.

Reese Witherspoon could have stayed an Oscar winning actress with a secure, established career. Instead she followed the pull toward creative leadership and built Hello Sunshine, a powerhouse production company centered on women’s stories. She expanded into producing, publishing, and business ownership, proving that even when you have everything, desire can still lead you to a higher calling of more impact, and success.

These women didn’t stop because they had “enough.”

They followed the desire to explore who they could become through the process of wanting more.

In my work with clients, what I see over and over is that desire is not the problem. The friction comes from the internal conflict. The part of you that wants more is in conversation with the part of you that is afraid of stepping beyond what feels familiar. That fear is not personal. It is old programming. It comes from childhood when your subconscious mind was wide open and everything you heard or saw became part of your operating system. Maybe you grew up around adults who normalized playing it safe. Maybe you were taught that ambition makes you greedy. Maybe you watched your mom or your aunts put everyone before themselves and learned that wanting more is selfish.

I grew up with a lot of those beliefs too. I worked hard, climbed the corporate ladder, checked the boxes, built the life I was told I should be grateful for. And I was. Truly I was.

But deep down I’ve always felt I was meant for so much more.

A different kind of more.

A more that felt like alignment, truth, freedom and choosing a life I had never seen modeled around me.

Our desires are a powerful compass.

Wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful. It makes you alive. Desire is simply your future self speaking to you through imagination.

Here is the truth that freed me and I hope will free you too…

If you desire something, it exists in your field of awareness because it’s meant for you.

If it wasn’t meant for you, your subconscious wouldn’t even register it as a possibility.

Desire is evidence of potential.

Desire is the soul nudging you toward the next version of yourself.

And there are parts of you that you will only meet through pursuing the things you want.

You may notice a pattern in yourself. A pull toward a new income level but a hesitation to claim it. A big creative idea that you keep shelving because you're afraid of what people will think. A part of you that dreams boldly and a part of you that slams on the brakes. This is not a sign that you are ungrateful. This is a sign that you are expanding. And sometimes expansion bumps into old programming that needs to be updated.

So ask yourself: What do I actually want? If wanting more was not selfish but sacred, what desire would I let myself honor? Your desire is not random. It is a calling. It is a map. It is the next chapter of your identity inviting you forward.

You are already blessed. That is true. And it is also true that you are meant to grow, evolve, express more of who you are, and experience the fullness of your potential. Gratitude and desire can live in the same body. They actually strengthen each other. When you honor your desires, you honor the part of you that came here to expand.

Give yourself permission to want more. Let your desire be the beginning of something extraordinary.

Thank you for being here and I’ll see you in the next one.