Episode 15: Stop Comparing Yourself: Use Jealousy as Your Next-Level GPS
Transcript:
Jealousy only shows up when you see someone living a version of the life your soul already knows you’re capable of creating. Most people judge that feeling or make it mean something negative about them—but what if jealousy is actually divine guidance in disguise? What if it’s your higher self saying, “Look—this is your next level. Pay attention.”
Today, I want to help you reframe jealousy so that instead of spiraling into comparison, you use it as fuel for clarity and aligned action. I’ll walk you through three simple steps you can take the next time that emotion creeps in—so you can turn it into momentum for your goals instead of a setback.
Let’s start with the reframe. Instead of saying, “I’m jealous,” try saying, “She activated me.” That shift alone moves you from lack into power—because activation reminds you that the energy is available for you too.
Step 1: Add to your vision.
When you feel that activation, revisit your life vision or your next big goal. Ask yourself: What is she showing me that I didn’t know I wanted—or maybe didn’t feel safe to want? Use that information to expand your vision. Jealousy is often just unclaimed desire asking to be acknowledged.
Step 2: Celebrate her.
Send her a comment or a DM and say something genuine. I’m not suggesting you pretend. This is an intentional practice that trains your subconscious mind and nervous system to see that it’s safe for others to have what you desire. which also means it’s safe for you to have it. When you celebrate someone else’s success, you’re also sending a message to your brain: “If it’s possible for her, it’s possible for me.” This is especially important if you grew up with the narrative that success was limited to a select few.
Step 3: Close the gap.
Now that you’ve identified what this activation is revealing, ask yourself: What would need to shift for me to live that experience? What you’re looking for with this question are any major or minor shifts you need to make in your life such as acquiring a new skill, adopting new habits, changes you’d need to make in your life to support that new experience, hiring support, or practicing being more visible. This is how you move from envy to embodiment—one aligned shift at a time.
Jealousy isn’t a flaw. It’s a mirror. It shows you what you’re ready for, where you’re still holding back, and what’s waiting for you once you decide to claim it. The next time you feel that activation, let it remind you that your desires are not random—they’re roadmaps. They’re showing you the direction your soul wants to go.
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